The Dating Experiment

We are running a controlled experiment on Christian dating.

We’re Not Guessing Anymore.

For years, the conversation has been the same:

  • “Dating apps don’t work.”

  • “There are no serious options.”

  • “Christian dating is broken.”

But almost no one is asking the real question:

What happens if someone approaches dating with a clear, structured system?

The Dating Experiment exists to answer that — with real people, in real time.

At this time, participation in The Dating Experiment is offered at no cost as part of an initial pilot.

What this is—and what it isn’t.

This is:

  • This is a 30-day controlled experiment designed to test one idea:

    If you apply a disciplined, intentional system to online dating… can you create real relationship momentum?

    You are not just participating.

    You are the experiment.

This is not:

  • This is not a course.

  • This is not general advice.

  • This is not encouragement without direction.

What We’re Testing.

There are only two possible outcomes:

1. Online dating is fundamentally broken

Even with structure, clarity, and discipline — results don’t happen.

2. Most people are approaching dating without a system

And when a system is applied, outcomes change.

This experiment is designed to find out which is true.

How the Experiment Works.

Phase 1: The Launch (Day 0)

We begin with a 1-on-1 strategy session to establish control variables:

  • Select the most appropriate dating app

  • Build or refine your profile

  • Define your Terms of Attraction

This ensures you are entering the experiment with intention — not randomness.

Phase 2: Terms of Attraction (Positioning)

Your profile determines who enters your dating pool.

We structure it to:

  • Attract aligned interest

  • Filter out low-intent matches

  • Communicate clarity without confusion

This is where most people unknowingly lose before they begin.

Phase 3: Terms of Engagement (Execution)

You will not use the app casually.

You will follow a defined system for:

  • Matching strategy

  • Messaging approach

  • Response timing

  • Interaction patterns

Every action is intentional.

Phase 4: Top Funnel Filtering (Inside the App)

Before leaving the app, you will:

  • Ask structured, low-pressure questions

  • Identify seriousness and alignment

  • Eliminate mismatches early

This protects your time, energy, and focus.

Phase 5: Bottom Funnel Filtering (Off the App)

Only qualified matches move forward.

From there:

  • Transition to texting

  • Conduct 2–3 phone conversations

  • Complete at least one video call

Only then do you consider a real date.

Phase 6: The Outcome

Success is not defined by attention.

Success is defined by this:

At least one real connection that moves off the app and shows clear forward momentum toward a relationship.

The Structure

  • Day 0: Launch Session

  • Days 1–30: Guided execution

  • Every 72 hours: Check-ins and adjustments

This is not passive.

You will have clear actions, clear expectations, and clear feedback.

What Makes This Different.

Most people experience dating as:

  • Random

  • Emotional

  • Unstructured

This experiment removes that.

It introduces:

  • Process

  • Discipline

  • Measurable outcomes

You are no longer “hoping something works.”

You are testing what actually does.

Who This is For

This is for Christian singles who:

  • Are serious about pursuing a relationship that leads to marriage

  • Are willing to follow a structured process

  • Want clarity instead of confusion

  • Are open to being challenged in how they approach dating

Important Note

This is an experiment — not a guarantee.

The goal is not to force an outcome.

The goal is to observe what happens when the process is done correctly.

Your Next Step

If you’re ready to stop guessing…

And start approaching dating with clarity and structure…

Apply to join The Dating Experiment.

At this time, participation in The Dating Experiment is offered at no cost as part of an initial pilot.

Apply for the Experiment

The Dating Experiment is a guided, structured experience — not a casual sign-up.

If you’re open to being part of a controlled test of modern Christian dating, you’re welcome to apply.

Not all applicants will be selected, but every application is carefully reviewed.

Participation Requirements (30-Day Experiment)

Commitment & Structure

  • Must be willing to participate for the full 30-day experiment period

  • Must complete assigned action steps (“homework”) consistently

  • Must be available for check-ins every 72 hours (virtual)

Technology & Setup

  • Must be willing to actively use at least one selected dating app

  • Must allow guidance on profile setup and optimization

  • Must be open to adjusting current dating habits and approach

Execution Expectations

Participants will be expected to:

  • Follow a structured system for matching and messaging

  • Engage in intentional conversations within the app

  • Transition qualified matches off the app (text, phone, video)

  • Work toward at least one real, intentional date if alignment is established

Mindset Requirements

This experiment is best suited for individuals who are:

  • Serious about pursuing a relationship that leads toward marriage

  • Willing to be honest about their current results and patterns

  • Open to feedback, adjustment, and accountability

  • Comfortable operating with structure rather than guesswork

Communication & Accountability

  • Must respond to coaching and check-ins in a timely manner

  • Must be willing to share real feedback on what is (and isn’t) working

  • Must follow the agreed-upon process throughout the experiment

Content & Documentation (If Applicable)

  • Some participants may be selected for anonymous or public case study content

  • This may include:

    • General progress updates

    • Lessons learned

    • Outcome breakdowns

(No private conversations or personal details will be shared without consent)

Important Notes

  • This is a guided experiment — not a guaranteed outcome

  • Results will vary based on:

    • Effort

    • Consistency

    • Alignment with the process

  • Submitting an application does not guarantee selection

Participants will be selected based on:

  • Readiness

  • Alignment with the experiment

  • Ability to follow the structure

Final Clarification

This is not about trying harder.

This is about testing whether a structured approach produces better results.

If you’re willing to commit to that process…

You’re a strong candidate for The Dating Experiment.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • No.

    This is a controlled experiment — not a guaranteed outcome.

    The goal is to test whether a structured approach to dating produces better results than what most people are currently doing.

    Some participants may experience strong momentum. Others may gain clarity on what needs to change.

    Either way, you will leave with real insight — not assumptions.

  • That outcome is part of the experiment.

    If you follow the system and don’t see meaningful progress, we evaluate:

    • What actually happened

    • Where breakdowns occurred

    • Whether the system needs adjustment — or your approach does

    A lack of results is still a result — and it gives us direction.

  • You should expect to be actively engaged throughout the 30 days, including:

    • Daily interaction on the app

    • Completing assigned action steps

    • Participating in check-ins every 72 hours

    This is not passive.

    You will get out of this what you put into it.

  • Not necessarily.

    During the Launch Session, we will:

    • Select the most appropriate app for your situation

    • Set up or refine your profile strategically

    The platform matters — but how you use it matters more.

  • That’s exactly why this exists.

    Most people who say apps don’t work have:

    • Never followed a structured system

    • Never tracked their behavior

    • Never adjusted their approach intentionally

    This experiment tests whether the issue is the app — or the approach.

  • You will be given:

    • Clear frameworks

    • Strategic guidance

    • Specific action steps

    But not robotic scripts.

    The goal is to help you operate with clarity — not lose authenticity.

  • Participants who are:

    • Serious about pursuing a relationship that leads toward marriage

    • Open to feedback and adjustment

    • Willing to follow a structured process

    • Ready to be honest about their current results

    This is not for people who want to casually “see what happens.”

  • Every 72 hours, we review:

    • Your activity and results

    • What’s working

    • What needs to change

    Adjustments are made in real time.

    This is what separates the experiment from guesswork.

  • Possibly — but with boundaries.

    Some participants may be featured as case studies, which could include:

    • General progress updates

    • Key lessons

    • Outcomes

    No private conversations or sensitive details will be shared without consent.

  • Success is not:

    • More matches

    • More conversations

    Success is:

    At least one connection that moves off the app and toward a real, intentional date — with forward momentum.

  • Not all applicants will be accepted.

    Selection is based on:

    • Readiness

    • Alignment with the process

    • Ability to commit to the structure

    If you’re not selected, it does not mean you’re not qualified — only that the current cohort is limited.

  • It’s both.

    You will receive guidance and structure, but the primary goal is:

    To test whether a disciplined, intentional approach to dating produces better outcomes.

  • 30 days is long enough to:

    • Establish patterns

    • Generate meaningful data

    • Create real opportunities

    But short enough to:

    • Maintain urgency

    • Require consistent execution

  • Most dating advice is:

    • General

    • Passive

    • Opinion-based

    This is:

    • Structured

    • Measured

    • Outcome-focused

    You are not just learning — you are testing.

  • At the end of the experiment, you will have:

    • A clear understanding of what works for you

    • A repeatable approach moving forward

    • A realistic assessment of your dating results

    From there, you can choose how to continue — with clarity instead of confusion.

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